It is time for me to inspire and enable myself

My mission in life is to be the trusted advisor to friends, family, colleagues, strangers; inspiring and enabling them to bring their ideas and desires to reality.

Wow. Did I just state that out loud? Yes, I have taken the leap and put it out there. I am a leader. I admit it and I am good at it. People enjoy when I help them make a decision, when I bring a plan together, or when I help execute an idea. They appreciate that I hold them accountable, ask the difficult questions (ok, maybe not all!) and push them beyond their comfort zone.

I have taken a number of different leaps in my life – some good, some not so good. I have learned from every one of them and am better for them. Today’s leap is a result of an even larger leap that started just 5 months ago. OK, I will state that one out loud as well. I left a senior level, well paid job where I was successful. WHAT?!? You may ask.

The better question should be WHY?!? It is so important to understand the WHY behind everything. Get used to that question, because you will see a recurring theme with me.

OK, so, WHY did I leave my job?

I am a driver, known to work extremely hard and get things done. Some have affectionately called me the task master (my team) or drill sergeant (my sister) or project manager. In fact, my friends informed my husband-to-be that I always love to have a project and to make sure he did not become the project! I am a former Certified Public Accountant, thus good with numbers. I like to measure things and prove that things are getting done. I LOVE to check things off my to-do list (and my husband’s honey-do list). Operationally, I am a visionary that can quickly map out a plan. (Did I mention I always need a plan, even if the plan is to do nothing?)

I have learned that I am equally driven by people and making them happy. I get my energy from people. I get my greatest joy in life when I see someone else succeed and secretly I know I may have had some influence. I enjoy listening to people to understand their goals, likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, and then inspire and enable them to succeed by providing the WHY.

So, what I have learned is that I am a Nurturing Driver and this is now my answer when asked what kind of leader I am.

Are you asking yourself, WHY hasn’t she answered the question yet of WHY she left a senior level, well paid job where she was successful? Apologies, just wanted to ensure you understood a bit of the background first. Now the WHY.

I personally was not being inspired nor motivated to achieve my goals, and any efforts I put in place to nurture and drive success with others was undermined by a command and control type of leadership. I could not be true to myself, my values and my leadership style in the current environment. The first time I heard myself bark to a team member, ‘I don’t know WHY, just do it’ I knew it was time for a change. My frustration, anger, negativity was impacting me emotionally and physically, as well as putting a strain on relationships.  It was time to move on.

Now, you may ask, WHY didn’t I find another job first, before walking away. Another good use of the important question. Externally my explanation was that I was working 14 hours a day, maintaining my newlywed status and getting my needed energy by spending time with friends and family, I just didn’t have the time and energy needed. Internally I knew that it was time to take care of myself. As I have been sharing, my passion is about helping others. I have never really made it a priority to inspire and enable myself to ensure my ideas and desires become a reality.  It dawned on me the importance of taking care of yourself before you can take care of others.

So, there you have it. My journey for the past 3 months; having the confidence to embrace what my mission is and share it with others. I have had many other insightful findings these past few months, as well as numerous experiences over the past 46 years of my life. I look forward to sharing these stories with you so that perhaps they may inspire and enable you to realize your dreams.

“There is no passion to be found playing small—in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” —Nelson Mandela

For those that know me, I love feedback, please feel free to reach out to me and share your thoughts, comments, ideas at eequalswhy@gmail.com. 

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